I have spies. That's okay; my blog is open and available to anyone to read and enjoy or not. I don't really care for the most part. It's my blog. I use my words to vent, to think, to reach out, to reveal.
Although I've never divulged my real name or hometown here, if someone knows me, it's not difficult to discover that this is my blog. I have photos of my family and me on here. Occasionally, one or more of my commenters will slip and use my real name. But there is a reason I don't use my real name, my hometown, my children's names, or the name of their school. It should be pretty obvious why.
Still, when someone in my life uses my words as ammunition to discredit me, it is only normal for me to react. Any normal person, especially one with a sensitive soul, would be hurt and pained.
And then, like most people, my reaction would be to become angry.
I contemplated shutting down this blog or making it private. I wanted to take away any ammunition that could possibly be used as fuel for discord.
And then, reason prevailed. This is my corner, my world, and my words. Yes, it is an open forum posted on the Internet for all to see. But the opinions and feelings that are stated here are mine, and I will not apologize for feeling what I feel or thinking what I think.
I try to be a good person, I try to do the right thing. I have a deep love of God and family and a humble gratefulness for blessings. I do not willing try to hurt people's feelings, and yet, like anyone, there are times my words and/or actions are misinterpreted by others.
This is my blog. This is my world. You are welcome to share this corner with me, you are welcome to disagree with me. But you are NOT allowed to take my words and my feelings and use them to sling mud.
Because I will not bow to you. I will stand tall and proud.
And I will not apologize for who I am.
Your Gift is Sensitivity |
 You are easily moved, and you have a strong emotional reaction to almost everything. Your sensitivity helps you get a lot out of life. You appreciate every moment more. It's hard for you to divorce yourself from your feelings. You notice every little thing around you. You're the type of person who finds empathy and compassion easy. |
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I so agree with you. Sorry this happened. But I guess even blogging you can't get away from idiots. Three cheers to you :)
Thom: Thanks for the support. Yeah, it's difficult to hide from "real life" - even with the most ardent precautions. But still, after I got over my hurt and my anger, I found my resolve. And I remembered that there are people who like me, both here and in my life, and that's all that matters. I am blessed.
Songbird- how frustrating that must have been! I can only imagine. When I first started blogging years ago, I didn't really understand how it all worked, or that anyone would really be reading my blog or care. It was an outlet for me. Not that I was hiding anything, afterall I used my real name and location. But I realized one day that all sorts of people within my work industry or people at my office were lurkers. LURKERS. People who would skulk around snooping then talk about it behind my back. That made me angry as well, to the point that I too, considered closing down the blog. But I prevailed and that was that.
Hang in there Songbird. :-)
It's so frustrating when that happens. I found my ex reading the blog on a regular basis, and I went back and forth between calling him out on it and making it private - and ended up leaving it as is, just adding some digs in at him every once in a while. if he's still reading, it doesn't show up on my tracker. I refuse to change who I am for anyone else, or hide what I have to say.
Good for you for taking the higher ground!
Well said.
PSS: You know it IS frustrating, but I keep reminding myself that if someone is worried about what is being said about them on a blog, they are either a sadly over-inflated celebrity wannabe or have no life at all. I'm glad you stuck it out. I shall as well.
Kathy: Ironically, I get along with all of my exes (loves and ex-spouse). If they wanted to read, I'd be flattered in a way! I don't get caught up in the stats; the only way I knew that this even happened is that someone read my blog, took the "offensive" post to the people mentioned, who then took it to someone who is in charge of a group to which I belong and demanded him "to do something about this." How infantile can a person be?
Travis: Thanks; sometimes I can be eloquent. *grin*
Well said my friend. :)
Sorry someone used your blog like that. Glad you decided not to end your blog.
when I started my weblog I had no idea it would be anything other than a personal scrapbook. So I didn't take measures to use aliases or anything...
but it rapidly took a different direction...and I'd rather limit who reads my weblog.
I am SURE some of my words could be used to sling mud or for other nefarious purposes...
I'm glad you've made the decisions you have...
Sigh.
Well, you know I understand. I've had my blog private, made a "secret" blog that didn't stay secret, and I know that my ex still checks my blog.
But I had to make the same decision. I'm not compromising myself for mean people.
If you do go private, I hope I get an invitation. :)
Amen....sister!!!!! We live in a great country where one can express one's feelings, thoughts and defend another person to be able to do the same.
I'm so sorry that someone out there is not being very nice to you. The main thing is that you know you're right in your convictions.
I think of it this way: Readers are like a bunch of tomatoes in a big basket. With the number of tomatoes, there must be one rotten.
It's really hurting for someone to attack us because of what we write in our blogs but we really can't stop people from doing that and neither can these hateful lurkers stop us from writing what we want in our blog!
Grace @ Sandier Pastures
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